Prior to viewing materialism through the lens of the pillars of the GentlemanProject I want to discuss the importance of creating and upholding your own personal value system. This is not a value system that is created by those around you, or by your hometown. This is a value system you create with yourself and the loved ones in your life. Creating and upholding your own personal value system is critical to your overall success, and ultimately, your happiness. We’ve all heard of the old adage, “Keeping up with the Jones”. This is NOT something you want to be a part of, because you’ll never be truly happy, or ahead of The Jones.
If you want to achieve “self-actualization”, true happiness, and fulfillment your personal behaviors and beliefs must be in alignment with your value system. Without this alignment your life will be like a Ferrari driving with the tires out of alignment. You’ll constantly be in the mechanic shop repairing a part of you’re life. This is not a good place to be. You’ll have dissonance in your life, which disrupts your ability to create your best self and achieve the all desired, “self-actualization” as discussed by Abraham Maslow. How does one avoid living life with dissonance? Simply by living your life aligned with your beliefs and value system. I believe that if you create your value system around based around the following 4 principles, ideas, and questions, you’ll create a value system that will lead to true happiness.
4 Questions and Principles
- Place your faith in a belief system that’s bigger than yourself.
- I have placed my faith in Christianity
- Ask yourself: What impact will your decisions make on future generations?
- Ask yourself: Who is benefiting from your actions?
- The goal is not only you
- Your decisions and ultimately behaviors should be not be decided based on current emotions, rather hold the test of time.
Remember, the goal is to have your actions, behaviors, and decisions in alignment with your value system. In order for that to occur, you must first create and know what your top values are. The 4 tips listed above are simply tips, which I’ve found to help me create a Gentlemanly value system. Overall, I’m joyful and realistically optimistic. There are many reasons including faith, a great marriage, blessed to be a healthy adult, a great job, wonderful family, and living in congruency with my core value system. I believe that Roy Disney said it best when he said, “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”